This is how social networks lead us to love ... or other demons ...

This is how social networks lead us to love … or other demons …

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Social networks have changed the way we interact with family and friends and have facilitated the approach of people who do not know each other, developing relationships of work, friendship and even love.

Although since the beginnings of the Internet there have been pages and websites dedicated to matchmaking functions, for example, the convenience of social networks has allowed people to always stay connected and available, without having to fill in data for a “shameful” profile with the intention to find a partner. In short, they are perfect for the one who is looking but does not want to appear desperate.

However, the use of RRSS must be cautious, prudent, because sometimes an untimely updated status or a photo that has been sneaked, can lead to upset, jealousy, harassment and even breakdown of relationships. This is how social networks can lead us to love or other demons.

Flirting

Usually, people like to find their other half in a familiar environment – someone who is a friend of a friend – to have good references and trust that, perhaps, they are their soulmates. For this, Facebook is ideal, with its principle of six degrees of separation, its generally realistic profiles, with not very modified profile and cover photos and visible personal data such as religion, political tendency, country of origin and residence. it is easier to get in touch with “friends of friends”.

A page called Wikihow even gives recommendations on how to prepare a profile to flirt and how to get in touch with possible prospects on Facebook (however, these tips can be used for other social networks such as Instagram, Twitter, YouTube, among others).

Among the tips that are given are 1) Place a photo of the person on the profile and the cover – no pets or generic images – because the idea is that others know the person concerned. 2) Do not post too many photos or any with the ex-partners, since it may seem that there is still some kind of nostalgia and desire to return to that relationship from the past. 3) Comment on photos or relevant statuses of the person who is the object of interest. 4) Take advantage of the relationship with mutual friends to start a conversation. 5) Regularly comment on the other’s posts. 6) After these steps flirt directly, inviting the potential partner to have a coffee or go out. 7) If everything has worked as expected it may be the beginning of a new relationship, otherwise it is necessary to evaluate a withdrawal and not continue seeking to make contact with a person who has rejected us.

If that pushy attitude about someone disinterested persists, we could be confused or turning into a stalker.

What is stalking?

Coming from the English terms Stalk or Stalker, which mean to harass or stalk respectively, the pseudo verb “stalkear” – not yet included as a valid word by the RAE – refers to the action of monitoring, commenting on and excessively sharing another person’s publications in the RRSS.

The Technological Institute of Tamazunchale, in Mexico, defines who stalks as “a person who watches or spies, through the Internet, especially using social networks. Some scholars call them the silent watchers or ghosts. The action of stalking implies a common practice. When you see the photos that your ex-girlfriend publishes, through a friend’s account so they don’t know it’s you or when you keep pressing F5 to see if your boyfriend updates something on Twitter that lets you know what he’s doing, both actions are stalking ”.

A “stalker” commonly follows his “victims” through all their social networks, in order to be aware of all their movements (check until the first photo they have uploaded to Instagram). In addition, he “Googles” you to find more information that may be overlooked and if he is your partner, he complains about status updates or posts that contain details that he did not know.

You can even stalk by WhatsApp, especially since this application activated the double blue check and the viewing of the moment when people in a group read your messages. In itself, if the option is not deactivated, it is possible to know when a person is online or when was the last time they connected.

WhatsApp

If the spied or spied on is the couple, it is most likely that he or she stalker, be a jealous person.

Jealousy for WhatsApp

There are those who think that WhatsApp in addition to being a facilitator of communication is a facilitator of conflict. But is the app itself really the culprit? Are social media causing the problems? o Are the users and their behaviors that generate the tension?