The debate is on the table and at certain ages, it is very difficult to find a balance between space, personal privacy and the safety of our children. If you are a father, you will know exactly what I mean. What is our son doing with his phone? Do we really know? The current educational trend urges (properly, by the way) to leave room for children, who are they who, based on experience, make their own decisions in life. However, the current threats have nothing to do with what we live in our childhood: the Internet is a field open to anyone, criminals included, and minors do not have to know that there are bad people with the ability to harm them.
This resounding testimony of Christopher Null in Wired I got a lot of attention, especially for the clarity of their arguments: at the author's home, both his wife and him, had made it clear to their children that the devices they used were not their property and, consequently, they could supervise them at will Many will see an intrusive maneuver in even disrespectful of the child or adolescent, but it is precisely the opposite. Why should you actively monitor your children's devices?
By common sense
Who has not encountered an image on the web or your email or WhatsApp that you wish you had never seen? Adults, with our resources, are susceptible to having a bad drink on the web, but we have the ability to ask for help or respond to possible aggression. A minor has none of this. In a world in which the digital has almost more weight than the real thing, an aggression, threat, or criminal proposal, can place our children in a distressing situation where they can give an answer that puts their integrity at risk.
On the other hand, many minors lack the least awareness of the scope of what they publish on the network; just a walk on Instagram to corroborate this last. There is no clear dimension of danger and threats are many: from harassment, violence, drugs Common sense indicates that it is healthy to be on top, at least until they are aware of where they are moving.
Those who are parents will know a classic paradox: sometimes when you repress your child some behavior and punish him, suddenly his character softens and it is even possible that it sounds Why? For something we all know: a person in formation needs to know what their limits are and this maximum is also applicable to the network. A child who knows that their parents check their activity on the network (and in other areas of life) feels loved and protected. And there is nothing worse than that false sense of freedom that a teenager can have.
Play in your field: use technology
In our house we were clear that we partially supervised the activity of minors at home and it has been applied. A Netatmo camera with facial recognition alerts to the entrances and exits of the house, and is something especially useful when we are not at home or during the night outings. In addition, Google Wifi allows us to establish connection times of the wireless network at home so that everyone knows that, at a certain time, the internet ends.
Everyone at home has Find My Friends or similar applications in which the location is shared in real time, and this has saved us more than a scare. You may think that it is a kind of dictatorial prison, but in reality it is common sense and supervision and in the end it is a better solution for everyone. Fortunately, there are many solutions for both hardware and software, aimed at supervision, and it is highly advisable that you at least consider them.
The autonomy is something that is gained by demonstrating responsibility, and perhaps that of the parents is to do bad cop supervising at all times what happens on the screens of the phones and iPad of their children. Too restrictive? Possibly, but always be better than regret an evil that you will always arrive too late.